Consider the driving force behind life’s miraculous journey from a few microscopic cyanobacteria to the billions of complex organisms alive on planet earth today. To sum it up in one word - Sex.
Sexual energy is, and has always been, a potent creative force. It is the energy responsible for new life. Think about it. We are all on this planet through a sexual act, right?
In many cultures, sexual energy is seen as a sacred force that can be used to achieve spiritual enlightenment, deepen our connections with others, and manifest our deepest desires.
Here we describe a process to harness this potent sexual energy to bring your goals to life. Then we give some background on how and why it works.
Part 1. A step-by-step process to harness your sexual energy to achieve specific goals.
This describes a solo-practice but can be adapted to include a partner. If this is the case, then your partner needs to be aware of what you intend and be a willing and mindful participant.
Spend some time planning this. It is all part of building the energy for the ritual. The more mindfulness and intent you can bring to each stage of the process the more effective the outcome.
1. Set your intentions.
Create a very clear and detailed picture of what it is you want. Include what it looks like, sounds like and how you will feel when you have attained it. How to do this in a highly effective way is described in the Succsex Factor self empowerment course. For now though. Write down clearly what you want, when you want it by, and how you will know when you have got it.
You can empower this process by working with a vision board. Gather images, words, and other materials that represent your desired outcome and arrange them on a board or canvas.
2. Create a “sacred” space.
It is important to create a clean space that makes you feel safe, relaxed, and inspired. You may consider candle light, incense or essential oils and inspirational/uplifting instrumental music (you don't want words that will distract your mind).
3. Cleanse yourself
Take a shower. But do it with intention and mindfully. Your aim is to symbolically cleanse yourself of all negativity, doubt and worries. Imagine that water of the shower flowing through your body washing away all impurities leaving you pure.
As you do this, don't let your thoughts wander. Keep them focused on the intent of this ritual and that you wish to enter into it washed clean of doubt and misgivings.
4. Energizing breathwork (Kapalbhati pranayama)
As you do this exercise, focus on a clear representation of your goal.
- Sit in a comfortable seated position with your spine straight and your hands resting on your knees.
- Take a few deep breaths to center yourself and relax your body.
- Begin by exhaling forcefully and rapidly through your nose, pulling your navel in towards your spine to create a quick, sharp exhale. This should be done with a passive inhale.
- Repeat this process for 30 for breaths, focusing on the forceful exhale and the contraction of your abdominal muscles.
- After completing the breaths, take a few deep breaths in and out through your nose to center yourself and notice the sensations in your body.
- Repeat steps 4 and 5 for another 2 rounds.
This video provides a clear instruction for the practice and its benefits. You may like to practice this technique before you undertake your ritual. Remember you don't need to sit in a lotus position to do this. A chair is fine as long as your back is straight.
5. Build the sexual energy
Begin to pleasure yourself slowly, gently, building the sexual energy and excitement. Rock your pelivs (thrusting movment) Take deep rhythmic breaths in time with your actions. Imagine that you are building up a great charge of energy.
During periods of high arousal, envision what you seek to manifest. The more intense your feelings, the faster you will attract what you desire.
You don’t have to focus on your vision the whole time but remain aware of it as you raise your energy leval and cycle it through your body with your breathing, pelvic thrusts and stimulation.
Take time with this stage. Repeatadly build the excitement to the edge of orgasm and back off.
6. Seeding Your Vision
When you feel ready to release the energy you’ve built up, hold your vision clearly in your mind and feel the pleasure of having your desired outcome manifested in your life. Now, bring yourself to climax and let your orgasm wash through you. As it does, allow the waves of your pleasure to send your vision out into the universe.
After your orgasm, relax and enjoy the afterglow, breathing gently. Letting go.
7. Let go and trust in the process
Trust the universe to take care of things now and trust the “magic” of this sacred act. Here the importance is to foster a sense of trust that your goal will happen no matter what. In the days and weeks ahead make a plan and take action. If you do this exercise effectively you will find that you have a great deal of energy and motivation to take action to manifest your goal.
Well there you are. A pleasurable way to tune your neuro-physiology to maximize your goal getting. Remember the more awareness and focus you bring to the process the more success you will have.
Part 2. The power of sexual energy and why sex magic could work
The ancients knew all about the power of sexual energy
Sex has been used in religious and spiritual rituals throughout history. In many cultures, sex was seen as a sacred act that could be used to connect with the divine, promote fertility, and achieve spiritual transformation. These beliefs and practices often involved the use of sexual energy in specific rituals and ceremonies, which were designed to harness its power and direct it towards a specific intention or desire.
One of the most well-known examples of sex in religious ritual is found in the ancient practice of Tantric yoga, which originated in India over 1,500 years ago. Practitioners believe that through the use of specific techniques and practices, they can harness the power of sexual energy to awaken their consciousness, achieve greater self-awareness, and connect with the divine.
Sexual rituals were also common in many ancient cultures, including the Greeks, Romans, and Egyptians. In these cultures, sex was often seen as a way to connect with the divine and promote fertility. In some cases, sexual rituals were used to honor specific gods or goddesses, while in others they were used to promote the fertility of crops or animals. These rituals often involved specific sexual acts or positions, and were performed in a sacred space or temple.
Sex magic: using sex to make stuff happen
“Sex magic” involves the use of sexual energy, often in the context of a ritual, to achieve specific goals or outcomes and has a long history being found in many different cultures.
Beliefs about how sex magic works often involve tapping into and manipulating a type of intangible and yet fundamental “life force” or “Chi”. While it may be beneficial to believe this is so, there is also a more down to earth basis for the efficacy of sex magic, when it comes to our own role in manifesting change.
The neuro-physiological basis for sex magic.
The neuro-physiological basis for sex magic is based on the fact that sex enhances cognitive and emotional states. Sexual arousal activates the brain's reward system, releasing a range of neurotransmitters and hormones, including dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. These chemicals can enhance mood, motivation, and pleasure, and may also facilitate learning and memory. In the context of sex magic, the heightened state of arousal and the release of these chemicals facilitate powerful and focused mental states that are conducive to achieving specific goals.
Another potential psycho-neurological basis for sex magic is the important role that intention and visualization play in shaping neural activity. Research has shown that intention and visualization can activate specific brain regions, including the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala, which are involved in cognitive and emotional processing. By combining sexual energy with intention and visualization, practitioners of sex magic are able to create powerfully focused mental states that can help to shape neural activity that in-turn galvanize motivation, conviction and belief.
Belief and conviction: the key to empowerment.
Enough has been written about how important strong belief and conviction are when attempting to realize your goals so we won't go into it too deeply here.
A lot can be summed up in the words of Mahatma Gandhi "Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny." or more succinctly "Belief creates the actual fact." - William James
So the question is how do we create strong conviction and belief in ourselves and what we want to accomplish.
Numerous studies have found that belief change and the development of strong convictions are enhanced by a high level of focus, engagement, and enjoyment of a particular activity that in turn create a “flow” state-of-mind. During flow states, the brain releases a range of neurotransmitters and hormones, including dopamine, norepinephrine, and endorphins, which enhance motivation, creativity, and learning. What is more, these states can facilitate the formation of new neural connections and strengthen existing ones.
Create powerful life changing beliefs using the power of your sex energy.
So to sum up. If you can create a focused and transformative flow state-of-mind it will facilitate the development of a robust belief that you can achieve the outcomes you want. When your belief in the outcome is strong then the likelihood of it manifesting is greatly increased. One way to create the desired flow state is by harnessing your sexual energy, which is the basis for the sex magic ritual described in part 1.
